Literally, “increasing your hips” means expanding the physical circumference or lateral width of the pelvic region.
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“Oh, that’s not straight… Oh, it is straight. That’s not straight, that’s the average!”
That is the average thought process of people seeing me and Finn. Today, I would like to talk about how to put together outfits—kind of. It’s not going to be super intense because I’m not in my new house yet and don’t have a nice area to show clothes or provide live examples, but I can show examples with photos.
My goal is to help you put together outfits that compliment you and assist you in your transition. Now, I’m going to preface this by saying I personally believe that “trans flaws” are not as much of a problem as people like to think they are. I think they are just human variations. My shoulders are bigger than my hips—it’s just not something to really worry about. I know that dysphoria is all-encompassing, but I personally think it is a little bit safer to battle the thoughts in your brain rather than try to obliterate the body and make yourself feel bad.
Finding Your Problem Areas
First of all, you need to identify your “problem areas”—the areas of your body that you dislike.
I previously made a video talking about the 2/3 Rule:
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2/3 of your outfit is one main piece.
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1/3 of your outfit is another piece.
If you can split your silhouette into that 2/3 to 1/3 ratio, you will have an attractive outfit.
The stage before that—before you can decide what you want to wear—is deciding what you are trying to achieve. Sis women do this too; this advice wouldn’t exist if not for sis women. It’s not just for trans women, but anyway, this is a trans channel. (I am so tired; it took me an hour to get the puppy to sleep before I could even start this video!)
Body Structure & Genetics
Obviously, you have the whole bone structure element, but more important are the muscles and fat. As a trans person who has gone through male puberty, you might not naturally have the same shape as a sis woman initially. But it’s not the end of the world; it is something you can change.
Genetics are a big factor—depending on your genetics, you could end up curvier than a sis woman. It’s all human variation. But on average, you will probably have less fat development around the hip area and on the back of your butt.
You can change this through:
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Clothing choices
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Exercise (specifically strength training)
Strength training is huge. I use it, and my butt has grown! (Here is a before and after—you can see the back of my ass is filling out slightly.)
Strategy 1: Balancing Hips and Shoulders
My problem area is my shoulders—they are wider than my hips. The way I handle this most of the time is to wear something flared at my hips.
To create curves and define your shape:
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Flared Mini Skirts: A lot of trans women love the skater skirt for this exact reason. It’s often the first item people buy.
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Oversized Pants: Go for an oversized pair of joggers, wide-leg trousers, or baggy Y2K/90s-style jeans to add bulk around your lower half.
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Waist Placement: If you wear a mini skirt, make sure you wear it around your natural waist (higher up on your torso), not down on your hips where traditional men’s trousers sit.
To balance out top and bottom:
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Form-Fitting Tops: Pair bulky or flared bottoms with a tight top (like a tank top or fitted t-shirt). This creates a juxtaposition that makes your waist look smaller and your lower half look curvier.
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Shoulder Control: You can proudly leave your shoulders exposed if your lower half is balanced out with a flirty skirt. Alternatively, if you feel insecure, wear a cropped jacket or hoodie. The bulkiness of a jacket hides where your shoulders end and creates the illusion that the jacket itself is providing the shape.
Strategy 2: Shapewear & Fitness
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Shapewear: Do not feel bad about using shapewear, waist trainers, hip pads, or breast forms. They are literally made for sis women who have insecurities. The entire female fashion market addresses insecurity, and it applies to trans women just as much. It’s the quickest way to feel safe in public—don’t feel like you are “cheating.” Safety and confidence are priorities!
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Exercise: I wouldn’t recommend a BBL (Brazilian Butt Lift) as it’s one of the most dangerous cosmetic surgeries. Instead, stick to strength training and cardio. Cardio paired with hormones in the female range helps pull in your waist.
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Targeting Muscles: Strength training will not make you bulky unless you are actively trying to be a bodybuilder. Focus on lower-body exercises that target the outer hips (like hip abductions) rather than just the inner thighs to build shape where you want it.
Clothes to Avoid & Shopping Tips
What to avoid if hips are a problem area:
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Bodycon Dresses: Avoid dresses that are tight all the way down with no flare. They rely entirely on your natural body shape to fill them out.
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Tight Jeans: Avoid tight, straight denim that offers no volume around the hips.
Shopping and Styling Tips:
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Try Different Sizes: An oversized t-shirt can look great, but a standard medium might cut your torso at an awkward length and make you look blocky. Go for either very baggy or very form-fitting.
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Explore: Your body might be changing faster than your brain realizes on HRT. Try on different styles in stores—you might be surprised by how well smaller or differently styled garments fit once you start experimenting.
I’ve rambled on about this one main problem area for the whole video, so I’ll leave it at that for now! If there are other areas you’d like help with, let me know in the comments and I’ll make another video.
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